Mr. Eduardo Vásquez Carrasco
Psychologist Psychotherapist
The previous section explained how to create the problems of everyday life and how to maintain over time, despite well-intentioned attempts of the people involved. This section will explain how you can generate new perspectives and strategies to find creative and practical solutions.
The following describes the process of generating solutions.
1. Search the momentum.
To reverse a problematic situation The first step is identifying the basic thrust of the attempted solutions have failed. The basic thrust is the common denominator of all the solutions that people have tried to run and not giving them positive results. In the situation of the rebellious teenager that we gave the example above, the basic thrust of the attempted solutions of the parents was the use of reason and logic to find a behavioral change in the daughter of greater responsibility and maturity.
When people go to for help say they have done "everything" to try to solve their problems. But in light of what has been said before, people fail to resolve their problems because although they have made a host of things, all these attempts, at bottom, are the same, ie, even if their attempted solutions failed to appear different and abundant, if all have the same basic impulse basis, ie a common denominator, any will work, because all work the same way and pursue the same.
For example, in the rebellious teen parents can show they have done many things to solve the problem, we have talked and talked appealing to the reason we have strict rules and regulations, have threatened to take away privileges, have punished sending her to her room and forbidden to leave home, have taken with a guy to talk to her and make her see reason, and so on. But if we stop to consider each of these attempted solutions all have a common denominator, the same momentum, which is that parents are responsible, serious, reasonable, assuming the role of responsible parents and appealing to logic and the reason for his daughter seek more responsible behavior and logic.
2. A 180 °.
Having identified the basic drive, the second step in generating alternative solution is to provide a 180 °. This shift is to implement actions that are contrary to the attempted so far ie going in the opposite direction at the time to act. Theoretically it is relatively easy to understand, identify the basic drive and then do the opposite, simple. But implementing it requires training, patience, confidence and creativity.
For example, in the case of the rebellious teenager to a 180 ° relative to the basic impulse of parents to appear responsible, competent and appealing to reason and logic, it would appear incompetent, careless, appealing of the unreasonable and illogical using language.
The reasoning behind this change of action is simple, if we show competent and reasonable parents only get her daughter to show rebellious and immature, then turning and appearing incompetent and illogical cause the child a different answer, also contrary to earlier, ie achieve his daughter shows mature, responsible and logical and reasonable in its thinking and acting. The challenge is that while apparently the solution sounds viable, out of place and even ridiculous, acting consistently with the principles described above are achieved amazing results in a short time.
variants described below, packaging them to different situations in particular the idea of \u200b\u200bturning 180 degrees in the act people to produce desired changes, enduring, always remembering that the idea is to go in the opposite direction to the basic thrust of the attempted solutions have failed.
then briefly describe common types of problems that individuals and families suffer, and then describe appropriate intervention for each type of problem using the troubleshooting steps above. The main interventions are:
1. Something that happens quite frequently is try to force something that can only occur spontaneously , here we find problems that are related to physical performance, such as insomnia, sexual performance problems, problems with voiding functions, physical pain, stuttering, sweating, shortness of breath, appetite problems, etc.
All these problems are generated from the individual attempts to force the occurrence of any physical function that can only happen spontaneously. For example, an individual with insomnia try to force yourself to sleep, counting sheep, doing enough exercise to get tired at night, take a pill, etc. All of these attempted solutions are flawed and that the longer causes sleep, the less you get and despite not succeed, keep trying to force yourself to sleep. The basic drive in this case is forced to sleep, but we know that sleep is a physiological function that occurs spontaneously and the more you try to have control over it, the less you get cause it. The solution to this problem, ie 180 °, the person would give up their attempts to self and stop trying too hard to get it.
The implementation of the idea of \u200b\u200bturning 180 degrees would be in this kind of problems the resignation try physiological functions, that the person does something to the exclusion of problem behavior, ie the opposite of what have tried so far . The practical application of this principle to the problem of sleepless, would it give up its attempts to sleep, to accept his insomnia, which try to sleep as little as possible, to lie but to prohibit close my eyes all night, or some other variant.
2. Another fairly common type of difficulty is coping avoidance of a feared event. is, to an event that is feared, the individual reaction to the postponement and avoiding it. Here we have people with anxiety problems, shyness, phobias, performance blocks such as fear of public speaking, etc.
The solution here would be the conduct failed attempt avoidant, before a feared event, such as public speaking, a person attempts a solution to avoid postponing the event and put in any situation involving exposure to the feared situation. Social phobias are a good example. The 180-degree turn in these situations that the person would resign succeed in the feared situation, which is exposed to the feared event and try not successfully complete this activity . Then, an anxious person may cause anxiety instead of seeking that this anxiety away from her, a person in fear of the written examination to answer a test question incorrectly, by the way, a person with fear of speaking in public can cause a state of anxiety in the days before exposure and minutes before exposure try to feel as anxious as possible. When a person is exposed to the feared event without the pressure to succeed then the discomfort goes away and lets you function normally.
3. A third type of problems have to do with interpersonal conflicts in a relationship when it requires mutual cooperation from both parties . Here's marital squabbles, conflicts between parents and young children or rebellious teenagers, disputes between co-workers or problems between adult children and aging parents.
attempted solutions failed in these cases are related to the other party require submission or collaboration from a position of superiority. For example, parents who demand obedience to their teens to assert their power as a parent in an authoritative manner, a spouse who calls for collaboration on the part of another through coercion, parents who bully their young children to obey them , etc. The 180 ° in this case would take a strategic position of submission, ie, placed in an inferior position to get obedience or cooperation of the other party . You can also ask for things desired to serve the other person so clearly and directly without using coercion, or without waiting for the other person "will be born" do this or that thing that we want. For example, parents of a rebellious teenager can appear unpredictable or incompetent and to mobilize the adolescent to be more mature and responsible, or ask clearly and directly to the person we want something from him or her.
4. In other cases people do not want to ask for things directly to their partners or other family members because they believe that if something is asked, or is not spontaneous, then it has much value as something that comes from the another spontaneously. People here confuse spontaneity with the real thing, think that if they have to ask anything they want and get it, then it is not real and therefore has no value. But that is not so, not because something is not spontaneous is no longer true. For example, a married couple on their anniversary, they both want to get something from your partner as a celebration for their years of marriage, but no one asked anything directly to another because they hope that the other will be born to do, because they think that as long as more spontaneous, then it is more authentic. But that's not necessarily so. We can ask anything we want to a member of our family and this act can be 100% authentic. The 180 ° is specifically and directly ask something we want to a member of our family and we can be sure it is authentic .
5. In this class of problems is suspected by a family member or partner on the other , for example, accusations of infidelity, excessive drinking, crime, dishonesty, etc. The unsuccessful attempted solution in these cases is the allegation by a family member or partner on the other, then this one immediately stands categorically denying the allegations, but instead to please the prosecutor, these denials only confirm the doubts of accuser and encourage him to continue with the charges.
The 180-degree turn in this type of situation is that the defendant recognize and accept the other's accusations in an exaggerated, ridiculous and implausible . For example, faced accusations of jealousy of a partner, the other party can answer yes but in an exaggerated manner, being extremely unlikely and giving extensive details of such humor, so the other party to continue to waive charges.
REFERENCES:
1. Fisch, R., Weakland JH & Segal, L. (1984). CHANGE TACTICS. Barcelona: Herder.
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