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Mr. Eduardo Vásquez Carrasco

Psychologist Psychotherapist

As mentioned earlier, we can not know the real world but in our minds just build models this world through language. Therefore, it would be useful to use a model to explain the creation and maintenance of family issues to help us see things in a clear, simple, understandable and help us to achieve change and solutions.
The following explanatory model of how to create and maintain the problems of everyday life in a family can understand as follows:

1. Appears a difficulty.
One difficulty is different from a problem (see below explain what is a problem), difficulties arise at every moment of life, are expected situations, ordinary. May be, for instance, a child entering adolescence, a family changing city, the death of a family member, the birth of a family member, the marriage of two lovers, etc..

Given these difficulties are expected to meet the people involved and mobilized for the prosecution of this difficulty to be expected. For example, say the case of a teenager who starts late home, not due to the mother and ignores the restrictions and regulations of the father in the house. Given this difficulty, fully expected and common in adolescence are related to the search for identity and autonomy within the parental roof, parents should respond and react.

2. Attempted solution fails.
The work of the members of the family is seeking a solution to the difficulty appeared. People sometimes seek solutions that produce results, but generally these solutions are inadequate and instead of solving the difficulty is exacerbated. For example, in the case of the rebellious teenager, parents seek solutions and start getting more strict with his daughter, give sermons and lessons from their bad behavior, they put more stringent standards and the like.

3. The problem appears.
One problem is a difficulty exacerbated by attempted solution does not work. Paradoxically, when people try to solve a problem and that solution does not work, instead of changing strategy and seek other forms of solution, most people opt to try over and over again the same solution but not work, and applying over and over again the same solution does not work exacerbate the difficulty and problems arise. In the case of the rebellious teen, parents are looking to get more restrictive and logical with daughter, appeals to logic and reason of it, put a stiffer punishment and seek to reason. Given this is the solution meets the daughter failed attempt being more rebellious, more disobedient, breaks more rules and is more illogical and irrational. Normally at this point people ask for help to others.

4. Implementation of the vicious circle.
At this point you have created a vicious cycle that maintains itself. Attempted solutions instead of solving the difficulty, and they exacerbate the problem last time. We can then summarize the case of the rebellious teenager in the following way: a teenage girl shown careless, apathetic and negligent in monitoring and compliance in the parental home, in those circumstances the parents appeal to reason and logic to go on trial for her daughter and make this take more responsibility for their lives and mature. Under this pressure by parents is more rebellious daughter, irrational and illogical than ever, aggravating careless and irresponsible behavior. Given that parents continue to apply the same solution does not work, that is still appealing to reason and logical view to reason with her daughter, causing it to respond more rebellious and parents become more logical and rigid and well this vicious cycle is implemented to maintain himself and that may persist for a long time.

These situations are quite common in the everyday lives of families and are repeated again and again throughout the years. That's why many people are discouraged with their problems, because they feel they have already done it all and do not know what to do and are too weak to continue. At this point it is important to convey the idea that there is always something I could do and that has never been enough to fix something. It is also advisable to remind the premises described in the preceding paragraph. We turn then to the next and final section will describe how you can reverse this process of creating new problems and generate alternative solutions and change to family difficulties.

REFERENCES:

1. Fisch, R., Weakland JH & Segal, L. (1984). CHANGE TACTICS. Barcelona: Herder.